You Are Not The Problem Podcast-Episode 3

May 28

Is violence ever justified?

Instead of giving a simple answer, we slow things down and look at what is really happening underneath these moments. We talk about how stories in the media and culture often leave out important context, especially when it comes to abuse, survival, and who gets believed.

We also explore how abuse is often only recognized when it becomes physical, even though harm can show up in many other ways that are harder to see or talk about.

This conversation is about learning to sit with complexity, especially in situations where the truth is not clear-cut.

You are not the problem podcast episode 3

Episode Primary Topics:

Reactive Abuse: What reactive responses can look like in situations of harm
What is DARVO: How stories get flipped in the media and who is seen as the “victim” or “abuser”
Understanding Domestic Violence: Why emotional and psychological harm is often overlooked
The Risks of Being a Whistleblower: What it can cost people to speak out or tell the truth
Systems of Power: How systems and social narratives shape who is protected and who is not
Inequity in Justice: Why justice does not always look or feel equal for everyone

Episode Practical Healing Tools:

Learning how to hold self-responsibility without harsh self-blame
Understanding your emotional and body responses to stress or danger
Getting more clarity on unhealthy or confusing dynamics
Building support outside of relationships that feel unsafe or isolating
Noticing how shame can cloud your ability to see clearly
Remembering that doing everything “right” does not always guarantee safety
Coming back to what feels grounded and true for you

Our goal is not to give you simple answers, but to help you slow down and think more clearly about situations that are often rushed or oversimplified.

There is a lot of pressure in the world to immediately decide who is right and who is wrong. But real life is often more complicated than that, especially when harm, power, and survival are involved.

So take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and move gently with yourself as you reflect on this episode.

Join us each month for a new theme in our unhinged exploration of trauma, power, and what it really means to heal.

And remember, you are not the problem…unless you are.

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